Love Yourself First

Self Care-The phrase that makes every mom picture a candlelit bubble bath, a perfectly curated charcuterie board, and maybe even an uninterrupted nap. But let’s be real—most of us are lucky if we get to pee alone, let alone soak in a tub like a well pampered Egyptian queen.

Here’s the thing: self-care isn’t just about spa days and face masks. It’s about taking care of YOU in ways that actually make a difference in your mental, emotional, and physical well-being. And no, you don’t need a whole afternoon to do it. Let’s break down some real, doable self-care ideas for even the busiest of moms. (Yes, I have actually checked all of these off the list successfully in my crazy chaotic life-but, not in one go!)

Redefining Self-Care (Because Bubble Baths Aren’t Always Available)

Self-care is anything that helps you feel less like a worn-out, caffeine-fueled robot and more like a human with needs, emotions, and actual energy. That can mean:

• Setting Boundaries: Saying no to things (and people) that drain you.

• Mindful Moments: Finding small ways to reset your brain without needing an hour-long meditation session.

• Basic Human Needs: Drinking enough water, eating actual meals (not just your kid’s leftover food on their plates), and sleeping more than four hours.

• Mental & Emotional Check-Ins: Acknowledging when you need a break (and actually taking it) before you hit full-blown meltdown mode.

How to Squeeze in Self-Care (Without Rearranging Your Life)

Moms don’t have time for elaborate rituals. Here are some ways to sneak in self-care without having to overhaul your schedule:

1. The 5-Minute Reset – Lock yourself in the bathroom (yes, literally) and take five deep breaths, stretch, or listen to a favorite song. A little escape can do wonders.

2. Delegate Like a Boss – Your partner, kids, or even Alexa can help. You don’t have to do it all. Ask for help and accept it-I know it’s tough, but you can do it.

3. Turn Mundane Moments into Mini Self-Care Rituals – Sip your coffee while it’s still hot, apply lotion with intention, or turn your commute into a personal podcast party-or karaoke party (who cares how the kids are staring at you).

4. Say No and Mean It – You don’t have to bake cookies for the school fundraiser again. Store-bought is fine-or letting someone else do it works well too.

5. Laugh (Even if It’s at Your Own Chaos) – Watch a funny video, text that one friend who gets your mom life, or just embrace the absurdity of throwing away yet another half drank water or beverage sitting around the house.

Prioritizing Mental & Emotional Self-Care

It’s not just about sneaking in quiet moments—it’s also about protecting your peace.

• Ditch the Mom Guilt: You are allowed to take care of yourself. You don’t need permission. This is the secret our husbands and kids practice ALL THE TIME.

• Journal (or Brain Dump): Write down the chaos in your brain, even if it’s just a list of things you don’t want to forget. I have A LOT of post it notes in strategic places.

• Talk It Out: Call a friend, vent, or join a mom group where people actually support each other (not just passive-aggressively judge).

• Move Your Body (Without the Pressure): Dance in the kitchen, take a five-minute walk, or stretch while waiting for the microwave to beep. It counts.

The Final Mom Note

Self-care isn’t selfish, it’s survival. It doesn’t have to be expensive, time-consuming, or Instagram-worthy. It just has to work for you. So go ahead—skip the bubble bath if that’s not your thing. Find what makes you feel recharged, even if it’s just eating a meal sitting down (gasp). You deserve it, mom friend.